First, I made sure I was really cute yesterday. Then it rained — bummer! I did not have an umbrella and I have a perm, so you know, I wasn’t trying to get there looking like shit. Luckily, it wasn’t too heavy and I had a hood. She was in the area a few hours early because her best friend lives around there.
I picked a West African restaurant — Senegalese cuisine. I have never been, but I heard good things. I like trying different restaurants and foods, when I can. She wanted to go to BBQ’s. BBQ’s is cool, but I would rather go some place different. I love finding nice little spots in Brooklyn. I can go to a chain restaurant anytime, ya know?
She wasn’t really feeling this African thing though, but she said she would go, if that is where I wanted to go. Fine! We get there and she wasn’t really all that open. I ordered some veggie spring rolls, but she didn’t want to try it. They were good as hell and the sauce was nice. I would go back, just for those. I asked her to try it and she said they were “okay.” Her drink was a little “tart.” Also, she didn’t like chicken thighs, but she would eat it for “me.”
I told her it seemed like she was determined not to like anything there. She disagreed and said she was “open-minded.” Well, she ate almost all of her food. So, she was probably just uneasy trying something new. I ordered lamb, she was not about to be as “adventurous.” She ordered the chicken.
We talked and it was easy. But, as my sister stated, I could probably talk to a wall and have a good conversation. I can carry a conversation, without being “too much.” It is safe to say, I talked more than she did. My sister asked “what did she talk about.” I said, I didn’t know — I barely remember. But, I know we were talking.
She said according to my sign — I am shy. Who am I to argue? She told me I WAS NOT SHY. I asked how she knew, she just saw me for the first time 5 minutes ago, lol. I am not really shy, I can be reserved and quiet, but it isn’t because I am shy. It is because, I also know how to shut the hell up.
So, lunch was cool. She paid for the meal. I was prepared to pay though. I actually stopped at the bank, to make sure I had cash. I never have cash — I am a debit card girl. I had my card just in case though. I only took out $40, because that was what I was willing to spend on lunch. Either way, as she said she had the bill covered. I told her we can wait until the check comes and see how much it is first. She stated again, she had it covered. I still said “I have cash on me.” She said she did too, lol. Apparently, she did a bank run too. I let her pay — I tried. She wouldn’t even let me see the bill. It was probably about $40.00 though — I didn’t pick an expensive place. She was trying to hide or some shit with the bill. Not so sure what that was about. Maybe, it was supposed to be funny. All I know she had her hands under the table taking her money out and told me I couldn’t see. Then she put the money in the thing and asked if I was ready. I wasn’t even paying her any mind. Once you are paying the bill, I don’t say anything else. So, she was trying to be “funny” with that whole thing. I just started looking for my lip gloss, while she did what ever she was doing.
Is she cute? She is aiight; she isn’t ugly. I mean…I don’t know. She has nice dreads and she was natural (without makeup). Which, I think is nice to see. I don’t like when women do too much with makeup. She is a fem. My sister said, I sound pretty lackluster about the whole thing, lol. Eh…I guess. I am trying to figure it out. I am trying to figure out, if she goes into the friend zone or not. She seems really nice and not ugly, lol. Maybe, I need to see her a little more dolled up. There wasn’t a whole lot put into her…her everything. I mean..she was cool. I dunno…she was — decent.
We took the bus home. I have never liked public transportation on a date, but, this is NYC. This is what people do. I got off at the stop before her stop. Which is my correct stop, but she thinks I live closer to her stop. I didn’t want to get too exact before I met her. I didn’t invite her over or anything, she doesn’t know where I live, even though, the bus stopped RIGHT in front of my building, lol.
I forgot to thank her for lunch, so I sent a text. She texted back telling me I had a beautiful smile. So, I got the impression she liked me, but I was still deciding. So, I said “Awww, thanks!” Then I added a joke from lunch time. So, that went smoothly. If I wasn’t so sure she liked me, I know after the text I received this morning. I sent her a text first saying “good morning.” She told me she has to refrain herself, because she likes me and may want to be around me all the time. So, yea, I am clear.
What do you do when you are not sure if the friend zone is the right place? We shall see. She asked to do lunch again next week — BBQ’s. Even though, I don’t want to go there, I think I will go on another date.