I was visiting Sensesocommon and she has given me a topic.
When we go on that first date, are we thinking “do I want to sleep with this person?” I think that may be the case. No?
Is it even a date if you hang out at your apartment? I have a motto, I do not go to people’s homes, if I am not at least a little interested in them. Not saying sex is going to happen, but I don’t want to put myself in an uncomfortable situation. At least, I know, if I at least like the person, I am cool with being alone with them, even if there is a sexual tension. I don’t want to be in environment like that with someone, I already know I do not like — like that.
I remember when guy friends used to ask me to come over, I told them I was the outdoorsy type. If we are just friends, then why would I come over? I have a television at my own house. I told yall, I used to smoke weed back in the day, and guys would try to use that fact. Well, I always had my own and didn’t like smoking with just anyone. So, that wasn’t going to work. They were just trying to slide out of the friend zone. Wasn’t going to happen and I do not want to put myself in a situation that will make me feel uncomfy. There is nothing worst that feeling like a piece of meat in someone’s house. I will pass.
If it was a sexy woman — that is fun. The little subliminal things are funny and fun to me. You know, when you brush your breasts on her “accidentally.” Or, if she needs has to pass in front of you, and you do not move, knowing the space is too small. You know you should move your ass back a step or two — nope. Allow her to rub her booty all on you. Then look at her like what? Making sure you wear the shirt that does wonders for your boobs. It is fun to catch her looking. More fun when you don’t back down –stare right back and smile! Sitting on the couch and just putting your head on her lap “for comfort.” That is when I will ask you to play in my hair — because I like it. If you do it, you LIKE ME! If things get heated with kissing, touching etc and then I just HAVE to leave just then. Leaving her dripping down her thighs. Yea, I will go to her place. Even if nothing happens, flirting is fun. I actually try not to go to women’s house too soon either. It is fun when the other girl is doing this kinda shit to me too. Well, except for leaving me soaking wet. Please do not leave the job unfinished. If you do, I may start to play hard to get — for shits and giggles.
I think the art of dating has gone out the window.
Do people even really go on real dates anymore? You know, take the time to plan a nice day/night out? Make a good impression? Do we need to see if we are compatible sexually, to see if they are even date worthy? Hmmm.
I actually like to date though. I really do. I enjoy planning a date and seeing how they turn out. I like holding hands. I like making eye contact. I love putting a smile on a woman’s face. Shoot, I love smiling and/or laughing. I don’t like the dating scene though. I am not into serial dating, I really don’t even have the time for it. I like to have one particular woman around. If that doesn’t pan out, then I date someone new. It may even take a while before dating someone new; it depends. That is okay though.
Do people still date?