I will always offer to pay.
If the other person has it covered, I still offer to at least pay the tip.
I just like to pay my way.
I am not one of those women who goes out expecting to be paid for all night. If you want to pay for me, that is fine. But, I come prepared to pay for both of us.
I also think if you have no intentions on paying, you should not touch the check. What are you looking for? If you have no money, you need to just sit. I wouldn’t even go out if I didn’t have money. It would be some embarrassing mess, if the other person didn’t have enough, and you left your house on empty.
I don’t want to go out if I am broke. If I am broke and someone I knew very well offers to pay, after I told them I didn’t have it, then I would still go. If in fact, I wanted to go out at all. There is no way, I am going to tell someone I just met “I don’t have any money.” No way. Most people will still offer to pay, right? Yea, but that is almost like begging to me. It puts you in a place too like a little “poor thing.” That my dears, is not a look I wear well. If you tell everyone you meet, you can not go out because you have no money, you are silently begging, lol.
Is the person taking advantage if they know they have no money, but still go out all the time? Even if they tell the person/people they have no money?
I do not think people should expect to be paid for all the time. Yes, in some situations that ends up being the case. That is fine. But, there is nothing worst than a woman who does not reach. Nah, you better at least pretend to have some money in those pockets/pocketbook.
Another thing that kills me? When a person who is NOT paying, asks you how much the check was and how much tip I left the waiter. If you were so concerned with the tip and/or bill; you should be handling all of that.
I think women should offer to pay or reach with men too. I remember my friend told me the woman who he was in a relationship with for years, never-ever-ever offered to pay a check. She never offered and she had never paid. The relationship lasted, I would say, 8 years or so. Dude, that spells trouble. If a woman never-ever offered, to me she is just not that into you.
I understand, not paying or offering on the first couple of dates with a man. I would still offer. But, if you really do like the guy, after a few dates or so, you should pay. That just shows you are willing to put in some work.
When anyone pays for me, I say thanks. That is just the polite thing to do. Plus, I appreciate anything that is done for me. A butch friend of mine does NOT like when a woman does not say thanks. I think sometimes, all she wants is a thanks — keep the money.
If the woman I am dating is hell-bent on paying all the time. I will let her — at first. Eventually, I will start to even things out a bit by paying. I am not going to take no for answer. I wouldn’t even offer anymore; when the bill hits the table, I take it and pay for it. I just tell her she can “get it next time.”
After all, if I am interested, I want her to know, right? I want her to know, I am willing to put forth the same effort.
Why do people assume someone else will pay? In gay relationships do you think one person is automatically assumed to pay? My friend went out with a woman the other day and the woman did not offer. My friend was not pleased with this behavior. They are both pretty feminine, so I wonder what the assumption was?
I just can’t see not offering.