They really do.
Don’t you guys hate women who like about having artificial insemination? Ugh, I do. I mean the ones that are lying. Why? That is the dumbest shit I have ever heard. These women really think someone believes the foolery? I don’t. *Hard Side-Eye*
I had an ex with a son, that was fine with me. She really didn’t raise her son, if you ask me. Her son was NO problem for us at all. I mean we could still go out, party, chill, or whatever else. She never even mentioned needing a sitter or anything. Her mom handled all of that. Her mom had always taken care of the son. She ended up living with her mom, but she had her own floor. It seemed like her son spent most of his time downstairs with the mom. Cool, what ever. I was younger then and I wasn’t really thinking “damn, she is a shitty-ass mother.”
We broke up eventually (this is a whole other post, remind me to write about her) and she entered into a 2 year relationship with another woman. Cool. I had not spoken to her in a long time. We touched bases every once in a blue. Some years later we ended up speaking again. I was living out-of-state, but I came back to NY to visit. I took her to dinner, to catch up. Everything went well. We were just platonic at this point.
We ended up talking all the time after that dinner. Just catching up etc. She was still cute too. She got a little thicker, but it fit her well. I told her “I see you are getting thick.” She just smiled. She was always pretty slim — a sexy slim. Now, she had some thighs going on and just a lil extra. Why do I feel like we made out in the car? LOL, I am not sure, but that could be accurate. It could be a totally different memory though.
When I went back home, we were still talking on the phone. She started telling me that we should get back together. I wasn’t going to go there with her though. I didn’t trust her when we were together, so I damn sure wasn’t about to start dating her when I lived in a whole other state. I didn’t trust her when she was a 10 minute drive from my house.
One day, I heard a sound in her background, while on the phone. I asked her what the noise was — she said she didn’t hear anything. Okay. I knew I heard something, but I didn’t know what it was, so whatever. A few weeks later, I heard a baby cry, I asked her who that was — she told me her cousin’s baby. Oh, okay.
I heard her and the baby again. I was thinking, her cousin’s baby sure is at her house a lot. Yea, right. She finally told me it was HER baby. Can you believe that ish? I was shocked. I did not know she had another baby. Who the eff lies about their own child? That explained the weight gain.
You try to get back with someone and forget to mention YOUR baby. I was like damn. I told yall, I never trusted that one. We broke up for that same damn reason. She probably figured, if I decided to get back with her, I lived out-of-state, so it would be some time before I came to NY again. She could put off telling me. Or, maybe she would hide the baby when I visited. You know, leave the baby at her moms for the whole time.
You know what else? The girl she was with for 2 years did not know she had a baby. They broke up and she had a baby. They still spoke and she never once mentioned her daughter. I kept on asking her WHY she didn’t tell the girl. She didn’t know how — the girl would be hurt. Um, possibly. Either way, that is not a secret. I told her she should tell her, she had no intentions on bringing up the matter. I would always ask if she told her yet. Yea, we kept speaking. It wasn’t my baby, so I wasn’t going to make it my problem. We did end up speaking less and less — then eventually nothing at all.
She would still go to see her ex. She would take her car seat out of the car before visiting the ex girlfriend. She did that shit. every. time. The more she told me, the more I thought that ish cray, lol.
I have never seen her daughter in person, but she sent me pics. Her daughter was a beauty. Why would she lie? I don’t care what anyone had to say, I am not lying about my children. No way — no how. There is no one that knows me, that does not know I have children. If you live in my neighborhood, you probably never see me without them. It is what it is.
It doesn’t matter how your children came into this world, they are here and that is nothing to be ashamed of — in my opinion. If you are so ashamed about what you are doing, then why do it? I know lesbians can be hard on women with kids, but really it isn’t a big deal.