I hold grudges. Yep, I do. I am not here to say “let go of grudges, blah, blah, blah.”
One of the definitions of grudge: : a feeling of deep-seated resentment or ill will.
This definition really does not apply to me; I am interested in finding a word or phrase that applies to moi.
I do not think you should walk around with a chip on your shoulder. I like being a happy person. I love to laugh and I truly enjoy making others laugh. I do not like to sit around sad or angry. I do not let others suck the life or joy out of me. I enjoy happiness: happiness is the goal in my life. Period.
I am one of those people who will stick to my guns if it is important to me. Small things? Whatever! Most things are considered small to me, only because life has so many bigger things in store.
I am an extremely loyal person. I try my best not to hurt others and I really try to fix my wrongs. I think that is the way it should be. If I hurt someone or caused pain, why wouldn’t I try to fix it? There are very few people in my life that can say I have wronged them in ANY way.
If someones does anything to me or my children, I will hold them accountable.
That is the word that applies to moi. Others may call it a grudge, but I call it accountability. You MUST apologize and try to make to right with me. If you do not, I will assume are aren’t sprry and I will probably never speak to you again. Is that harsh?
I really do not think so. If I always respected you and treated you correctly, why would you want to do anything against me and mines?
Most times, I will not even say a word, they know. Plus, how do I you forgive or go along like everything is fine? If you have not asked for forgiveness or admitted wrong doing? I am not into that dysfunction. My family likes that sort of thing and I’ve always hated it.
I believe toxic people should be cut off. Why would I want to keep you around me? I do not subscribe to the whole “oh, they are family foolishness.” This just continues the generational fuckery.
I HATE when someone else tells me the person is “sorry and/or didn’t mean it.” What? I do not cut off kids, so I am sure we are talking about a WHOLE adult. Why would they need another ADULT to tell me how they feel? Yes, enabling! I refuse to be a part of it.
Accountability is my friend. Is accountability your friend too?