Why do people lead with money and then wonder why their relationships never work? It is so crazy to sit back and watch people make reckless decisions and truly believe everything will work out great. I am not a Debbie Downer, but some shit is just clear as day.
I have friends that will shower women with money for no reason. I mean they meet a woman and just starts buying them shit. Why? You do not know this woman! What are you trying to prove?
There is one particular friend of mine who has done this a few times. When it is all done, she calls the women golddiggers. Are they digging for gold? Or are they just being handed gold? She likes those ultra-Femme types. The full make up everyday, never wears flats, expensive bags etc. Just the expensive-taste-type of women. That is fine. But, why does she feel the need to start contributing to their lifestyles right away?
My friend met a woman and within a few weeks she bought her a thousand dollar hand bag. Really? She couldn’t carry the same shit she already had? Please, she better bring out them bags from the back of the closet, tee hee. She said she bought her expensive flowers and was mad that the woman pretty much threw them down and wouldn’t even put them in water. If someone is showing they do not care and refuses to meet you half way, why bother? This wasn’t love. This was a brand new situation!
People who do this — usually boggle my mind. If you lead with money, people are going to let you spend. That is just what it is folks. We are in a recession! People are broke and some are just making it. If they meet a dumb-ass who is spending and doing shit for no particular reason–um, they are going to sit on that pedestal and receive.
If you want to see if someone is genuine, then you need to fall back on all the gifts etc.
I will not let someone spend money on me if I don’t like them. That is just me. I will pay too because I am genuinely interested. Yes, I will let you pay for a dinner or a date, but I won’t sit around spending your money, if I genuinely do not like you. Karma is a bitch.