I am one of those people who will give you a “head-nod” sometimes. I don’t always feel like talking, especially if we cross paths a lot. I am friendly, but not overly-ridiculous-you-are-so-freaking-annoying-friendly. Get it? I say hello, I speak. I am friendly with the people in my building. I know in NY a lot of us will see a person for ever and never open our mouths. I had to get myself out of that just a bit. I feel like I am a single mom living in NYC, I should talk to these people. What if something ever happened to me or my kids? I don’t want people to say “fuck her, she never speaks.” These are my neighbors and I want to feel safe. No, I won’t be the one that you wish you didn’t bump into though. A quick, “Hey or How are you” is enough. If someone smiles at me or says hello in a non-creepy way, I will also reciprocate with a warm smile.
At work? No, I am not going to say hello every time I see you. I saw you and you saw me already. Cut it out. I hate that person that always wants to talk, when you really don’t want to talk and barely know them. Find a friend lol.
No, I will not nod and speak to every single person I see on the street. I am so busy trying to not step in shit, I really can’t lose focus. I have a real issue with dog shit, and not stepping in it. It is almost a phobia at this point.
My daughter is a Friendly-Friday and it can be annoying. If she sees someone she “knows” she will be all loud and ridiculous about saying hi. I start squeezing her hand and telling her to stop IT on the low. Like geez, you don’t let a mofo notice you? You always gotta be acting like a fan? lol
I think I balance it out fine. I speak to the more important people more often, and less to the other people. I smile, I nod, and even have conversations.
When I lived in Georgia, I thought “damn, it seems like a lot of people know me from somewhere” because people were always saying hi to me. Little did I know – they did not know me and they were just friendly. Friendly? What was that? In Brooklyn, we did not talk to strangers. Period. Maybe people in the neighborhood, but damn sure not people on the train or elevators etc. I am a lot friendlier now, mainly because you don’t always have to be like that. I swear I lived in the same place for many years, grew up there, and if someone other than a schoolmate knew my name, I would be totally surprised.