I spoke to my friend a little more over the past week. I told her how I felt and I wanted to do this 50/50. I let her know I can have papers drawn up saying we would split the profit and loss equally for any money that comes through this venture.
She is cool with all of that, but she still felt like we should give the other girl a chance to prove herself. She felt it was too new to kick people out. That is where we differ. I think now IS the time to make those changes. If I don’t think I am going to make money, I am not doing a “business” venture. With that said, when would be a more appropriate time to cut the dead weight?
I know I am going really hard. I also now believe my vision was bigger than theirs too. I think they were just trying to sell something and make a quick side-buck. I want to make a quick side-buck too, but if I can build it into something bigger, I want more.
I decided to call the other girl. I do feel messed up talking behind her back. I rather just clear the air and see where we stand. I need to get everything situated.
I told her how I felt and offered her the option to make a profit on the money she put in. She can then leave that money with us to make more money and we can decide on the rate and time frame. I told her I didn’t think she was pulling her weight and I didn’t see what she was doing. I let her know my friend is selling and I am handling the back-end. So, this may have been more than she can handle and more than she anticipated.
She said “you want to kick me out?” I told her I wouldn’t word in that way because her money can still be in. She can make money without doing any of the day-to-day. She said “you don’t want me to do anything?” I told her she wouldn’t have to do anything. She is not interested in my offer. In fact she said “this was our thing and we brought you in and now you want to put me out.” I said “yes, that could be true, but you didn’t really bring me into anything, because you didn’t have anything. When I decided to come in, I was under the impression you had a supplier. You didn’t and I had to find a supplier. Since then I have done pretty much everything.”
She said she also felt I was doing a lot. She said she even told my friend as much. I guess that is when she offered to buy me a gift. I just wanted to know what were her intentions right now. I said, “what are your strengths, what can you bring to the table?” I made it clear what I brought to the table and my strengths were clearly defined. My friend has shown her strengths and what she had to offer as well. When it came to her…I had nada.
She seemed taken aback by my question and I can understand as much. She said “I can do everything that you can do, because what you did was minimal.” I replied “I supposed you can say it was minimal, but it is important and the groundwork for what we are trying to achieve.” Then she goes on to say she could have done this and that too, but I already did it. Well, I don’t wait for direction. If I see something that needs to be done, I am going to do it. If she felt she could handle it, she should have and brought it to the table. If it was better we would go with it. I just want to put out the best possible image. She didn’t bring anything to the table and then said she could do it too? Well, we will never know — will we?
I told you guys I was doing all of the typing and printing of everything. She said she can’t do that at her job because she is monitored. I said okay “what about when you get home?” She said she could do it at home. Um…am I missing something? I guess it was already done…so why bother? Do something else. I know I go hard, I know I do. But, that is what hunger is all about. You make it work. You do what you can. You make your own way. You draw on your strengths. You don’t wait around. Am I wrong? This isn’t a job. There isn’t anyone micromanaging your work. You have to make it happen. I tell the both of them what I want to do, what I like and what I am thinking. They agree or disagree and I proceed from there. If I think something is a good idea, I just do it and show it to them. If they like it, we use it…if not, I chuck it.
I’m just saying. It’s like having a job where you are required to bring in new ideas. You better bring something to the table. No one wants to hear “Oh, I was JUST about to say that too…they took my idea!”
She said she felt uncomfortable with the conversation and asked if I felt that way too. I said yea, but not on a personal level. Personally, I don’t have an issue. Business wise I am not certain this is the right move and I wanted to make that known now, so we can know how to proceed. I told her it isn’t personal. She agreed with me.
I told you guys her friend did our brochures and flyers. She was feeling some kind of way because I kept making revisions. I thought we were paying her friend. If I am paying for something, I am allowed to make changes. She felt she was trying to handle that, but I kept coming with revisions. I told her “if we are putting something out there it should be right. It should be grammatically correct and it should look good. Yea, I did make revisions, but we should all be looking for those things.” This girl can’t write a one sentence email without making an error. I am not an English teacher, but I can string some words together. If I am not sure about something important, I have it edited by someone who writes well.
She said she did stuff too. She ordered packaging boxes too, but I just did it first. She set up the PayPal. I wasn’t trying to be mean, but I had to let her know it took her 3 days and she didn’t link the correct bank account. So, what was the purpose? I have to go and fix it. She said it seemed like I didn’t even want to bother with her anymore. Well…
In the end she agreed I was doing a lot. She agreed we can change and she can do more. She said she wasn’t going anywhere, but things would change after our conversation. If things did not change, we would talk about it or there may not be anything to talk about.
She says she will start going business to business with flyers and product. She says she is going to sell. Okay, cool. If she is bringing in money, that is valuable. She also needs to get her social networking game up. We are doing all of that and she acts like she can’t work her Ipad. Clearly she has time to do that shit. Social networking is a job to me. I am doing so much and it takes time. She needs to jump right in and pitch in.
I agreed to her plan. If nothing changes, then I have all right to end things with her on the business tip.
I must say that conversation looked like it may have put some fire under her ass. We had a photo shoot on Sunday; we needed some professional pictures. She didn’t know if we were still doing it. I knew were, but I didn’t want to bother with her lol. My friend texted me to go with her husband to New Jersey; we had to pick up a model. I agreed and thought, well while my ass in going to Jersey she should be at the shop helping with the shoot in any way she can. I texted her @ 1:05pm and she text me back @ 1:30 saying she was at the shop. She lives in the same neighborhood, but she damn sure put some “pep in her step.” It took us 5 hours to go get the model-girl; there was so much traffic. I thought she should bring the girl back home. My friend’s husband had to be @ work @ 6am the next day. She also drives and I went the first time. She wanted to bring her home the next day. She was telling me she had to wake up @ 5:30. Not my problem. I don’t have a car. She said I could take her car and bring her home. What do I look like? I don’t want to drive her car. Well, she found someone to take the drive with her and she took her home right after the shoot. That is what I am talking about. Get to working.
Although I want her out my friend has this feeling bad thing. She drags things out longer than she needs to anyway. It doesn’t seem like I am giving her a chance. I am willing to go with the flow for now. My friend was telling me everyone doesn’t learn things right away. Some people take longer than others and we have to teach them. We may need a consultant/mediator to help us. I am not mediating shit. I am not babysitting her either. She can be her project. If she slips up, I am done and I not working with her ass. She is treating her like one of her employees in her shop. This isn’t an employee. She wants 1/3 of profits. What the hell?
Ol girl has been sending suggestions now. She wants to meet today to discuss some
shit issues. I am trying to be all ears. I don’t want her to have any reason to say she couldn’t take part in what is going on. She already said it seems like we don’t value her suggestions. And when she suggests a product, we don’t give any feedback. Listen, before you make a suggestion..RESEARCH. She just throws shit out there and then waits. Girl, go do the leg work and bring back something you think is worth it. No one has money to waste. As soon as she sends me a suggested supplier, I research them and they always have some negativity attached to their name or product. Had she done the same, she wouldn’t have even sent that shit to us. Now she is waiting on feedback. If I suggest something and no feedback is given, I take it as a no-go. Or, I check it out a little more before I bring it back to the table. I am not sitting in my feelings.
She suggested meeting up more often. It was something we should be doing. I couldn’t meet up with them as often, because I needed to get my baby sitter situated. I know she ain’t talking about shit anyway, lol. I set something up with my sitter and told them I can meet up now. She said “when I suggested meeting up, no one wanted to, but when you say it, everyone jumps on it.” That wasn’t the case though. She already made it clear she was available, my friend is available because we are meeting at her shop. So, I was just letting them know I am now available too. I don’t know, I thought it was a good thing, I could make some time. This girl doesn’t have kids, lives at home, lives in the projects, has a union job and leaves work @ 4. She has all the damn time in the world. I stretch my time as much as I can. Now, I made it so that I can have more face to face time and she is in her feelings. Blah.
ETA: I just had the meeting. I am cool with her being in now. LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! We had a good talk and in the end I learned her credit score is a 748 and she is willing to use her personal credit card for inventory. LOL! I am a mess. I’m sayin’ though. That is a great credit score! With the money we have, my score in the 7′s and her personal credit cards, this isn’t sounding too bad. She may not be a worker, but that credit score is lovely. LMAOOOO…
I sent her a text apologizing! HAHAHAH….don’t laugh at me!
You guys hush! I am trying to be strategic!